Monday, 31 August 2015

Observations of life situations that evoke questions and responses.

As we have seen now a days cultural values do not get primary values so we should promote our natural culture and moral values is also not get preferences but for better education we should aim of moulding personality in the right way.
Response : There are two problems which cause great worry to our educationists the problem of religious and moral instruction in a land of many faiths and the problem arising out of a large variety of languages.  Taking up the education of children we see that they should be trained to love one another, to be kin and helpful to all, to be tender to the lower animals and to observe and think right. The task f teaching them how to read and write and to count and to calculate is important, but it should not make us lose sight of the primary aim of moulding personality in the right way. For this, it is necessary to call into aid, culture, tradition and religion. But in our country we have  in the same school, to look after boys and girls born in different faiths and belongings to families that live  diverse ways of life and follow different forms of worship associated with different denominations of religion. It will not to tread the easy path of evading the difficulty by attending solely to physical culture and intellectual education. We have to evolve a suitable technique and method for serving the spiritual needs of school children professing different faiths. We should thereby promote an  atmosphere of mutual respect, a fuller understanding and helpful  co-operation among  the different communities in our society. Again we must remain one people and we have therefore to give basic training in our schools to speak and understand .  more languages than one and to appreciate and respect the different religious prevailing in India . It is not right for us in India to be dissuaded from this by considerations as to overtaking the young mind. What is necessary must be done and it is not in fact too great a burden. any attempt to do away with or steamroll the difference through governmental coercion and indirect pressure would be as futile as it would be unwise ,any ion of a single way of life and form of worship on all children or neglect of as section of the pupils in this respect or barren secularisation will lead to conflict between school and home life which is harmful. On the other hand if we give due recognition to the different prevailing faiths in the educational institutions by organising suitable facilities for religious teaching for boys and gals of all communities this may itself serve as a broadening influence of great national values.
What is it that enables some people to gain whatever goal they set for themselves while others do not succeed ?  What makes some men winners in the world and others the losers ? if u want to win, we must find the right answer to this very important question. Are there certain qualities or techniques which a person can use to achieve success regardless of his goal?
Response :To confirm this we must carefully study the lives of successful men of the past as well as the present day. No doubt there are certain characteristics which are commonly found among all these great people. But an academic or college education is not necessarily one of them. Such an education perhaps could be an asset. let us remainder  this. college education by itself is neither good nor bad. It all depends on what use you put it to. The important thing is, if you happen to possess it you can use it to advantage. If u do not have it, there is no real cause to worry. Many have succeeded not only in India but also in other industrially advanced countries having attained great success without college education. For instance, Thomas Edison had taken only three month’s schooling. The great Abraham Lincoln was practically self-educated. Benjamin franklin did not attend the school at all. The Wright Brothers were not scientists but bicycle mechanics by their basic profession. Success also does not necessarily depend upon one’s birth, environment, wealth etc. H.G. Wells was born in poverty and had to fight ill health continually. The study of the great , successful, self-made men all over the world, whether of the past or of the present, spotlights very important common factors. They knew how to get along successfully with others. They knew how to sell themselves to strangers and friends, to their employers and employees, to their neighbours, families, in fact to every one with whom they came into contact daily. They knew how to sell ideas, knowledge, talent and services. They knew how to get along with men, influence and motivate them. Success depends to a great extent on what you do with your ideas, talents or gifts. Invariably it is not what you do about what you know. It is not what you have, but what is done about it that spells the difference between success and failure.
What is a true compliment  ?  is compliments  promotes and motivates us to get the greatest achievements of human race . compliments make us happy everyone desires and love to have it . but how ?
Response :Real praise, the sincere compliment is probably the most useful social tool of all. It’s the valued gold coin of our conversation. Yet today, it is in danger of losing its brightness. For it is greatly misused and not properly exchanged. It’s  one  benefits  both giver and receiver. Once a painter and his young  assistant were painting our house. The older man was wearing shiny new shoes. As the man started skilfully  painting , my father-in-law, said to the boy ,”son, when you can show up on the job to paint a house, wearing new shoes, you will be the master of your trade.” The painter smiled and did the best job. We all like to have our sense of personal worth built up or pointed out. And when one expert adds to another’s  sense of dignity and speaks favourably of his skill, he is offering a compliment of the highest and rarest kind. A compliment differs from flattery  in that it is objective and given without thought of gain. Flattery is often merely lip service or excessive praise given for motives other than express. The greatest efforts of the human race have always resulted from the love of praise. This should be inspire in childhood. The wise parent makes it a point to compliment a child who deserves it. A woman I know has a 12 year old son who considers washing dishes for his mother a great honour. One night, while washing a large dish, it slipped and crashed on the floor. Then his mother said ,” you know , Robert , of all the time you have washed the dishes for me, this is the first time you dropped one”. Anxiety left the boy’s face and he smiled. As one  psychologist advises ,”praise virtue and you will find few vices to criticise.” There is an art in this giving of compliments. Thus the good compliments is always to the point and timing is important. Don’t wait too long to tell a person what a good talk he gave or how well he cut your grass. But don’t do it immediately  when he is expecting it either. We ait. Then when he thinks you may have forgotten ,pass the praise. Confidence, it has been said, is the greatest gift that one human can give to another. But that does not mean we should be wasteful with our compliments. Rather we should count them carefully remembering that a good compliment has a greater purchasing power than money , that no one is too busy or successful to receive  word of praise.
Egotism is the commonest fault of mankind. How it can be ? what is it ?

Egotism is the most common fault of mankind. Product of the perfectly  natural desire to display oneself, egotism, which is an exaggerated form of self-display, can take such a variety of shapes that it is not always easy to discern. Beyond any shadow of doubt , however , it is a personality defect that ought to be constantly hunted down the scotched, for it impairs the personality , and frustrates all efforts at self-improvement. This is the easily recognizable form of egotism that is evidenced in the person who continually takes of his own affairs. You must all have met the kind of man who is never happy save when recounting his exploits and experiences in life; and whatever subject he may begin discussing you feel quite sure that he will sooner or later arrive at himself. although  such a blatant kind of egotism is apparent to the onlooker, it may not be so easy for the egotist himself to recognise his fault. But if he can put on his guard and it behaves each one of us to examine carefully whether we are entirely immune from this canker there is always hope of cure. On the other hand, there is a type not uncommon which evidences its egotism by affecting a humility that is certainly not felt , and ostentatiously avoiding the use of the pronoun “I” in speech and in writing. Such affectation is an infallible sign of egotism. It is all the more reprehensible because it is deliberately assumed by the person. Next we come to the individual who holds strong opinions and insists on forcing these opinions on to others. he constantly lays down the law, he knows and he jolly well insists that you shall accept of this conduct ,  although it is not so easy to remove such a defect, for a person of this kind is generally possessed of a fiery temper but again it can be done and recognition of this defect is the first step towards its cure.  Egotist will glibly appeal to duty; he will continually find fault with another’s way of doing things and point out the immense superiority of his method. In his eyes , he is always right. So we should make sure whether we are not one of that kind and get rid of this problem of egotism. 

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